The following is taken from Dr. Shirley Glass’s book, “Not Just Friends” (p.331). We highly recommend this book.
Seven Tips for
1. Maintain Appropriate Walls and Windows
Keep the windows open at home. Put up privacy walls with others who could threaten your marriage.
2. Recognize that Work Can Be a Danger Zone
Don’t lunch or take private coffee breaks with the same person all the time. When you travel with a coworker meet in public rooms, not in a room with a bed.
3. Avoid Emotional Intimacy with Attractive Alternatives to Your Committed Relationship
Resist the desire to rescue an unhappy soul who pours his or her soul out to you.
4. Protect Your Marriage by Discussing Relationship Issues At Home
If you do need to talk to someone else about your marriage, be sure that person is a friend of the marriage. If the friend disparages marriage, respond with something positive about your own relationship.
5. Keep Old Flames from Reigniting
If a former lover is coming to the class reunion, invite your partner to come along. If you value your marriage, think twice about having lunch with an old flame.
6. Don’t Go Over the Line When You’re Online with the Internet Friends
Discuss your online friendships with your parnter and show him or her your email if he or she is interested. Invite your partner to join in your correspondence so your internet friend won’t get any wrong ideas. Don’t exchange sexual fantasies online.
7. Make Sure Your Social Network is Supportive of Your Marriage
Surround yourself with friends who are happily married and don’t belive in fooling around.