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How Does Counseling and Therapy Help Depression?

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If you are suffering from depression and anxiety, counseling and therapy can help… but how exactly does it help?

Too many people think that counseling and therapy can’t help their depression/anxiety because they don’t understand how it is designed to work. This article will help you understand the mechanisms of counseling and therapy, and learn exactly how therapy helps depression.

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How Therapists Help Depression & Anxiety

People need the help of a therapist or a counselor in dealing with depression and anxiety for two main reasons:

    1.  Therapists can teach you skills to deal with the emotions and thoughts that cause or worsen depression.
    2. The ongoing sessions give an outlet for stress and allow an individual to go through the very important action of “unloading” their thoughts and emotions (opening-up, getting it off your chest, venting).

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Why You Should Talk To A Therapist About Your Depression, Not Your Friends and Family

When it comes to “venting” or letting-out all the thoughts, feelings and frustrations surrounding your depression, your friends and family are NOT the best choice. It is fine if your family and friends just listen and don’t get too involved in trying to fix your problems.

The problem arises when family and friends give bad advice about your depression and anxiety. This can lead to a worsening of the smaller issues that lead to the bigger issue of looming depression and anxiety.

Depression and anxiety is like a knot your body and mind that needs to be worked-out. To work out that knot, you need precise actions in-order to untangle all of the strands. There are many smaller strands (problems, thoughts and frustrations) that make up your depression and anxiety. It requires focus on the individual strands to loosen the knot and relieve the depression and anxiety that have you “all tied up.”

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What Skills Help Fight Depression?

There are numerous skills that therapists teach that can help with your depression and anxiety. The triggers for depression are just as numerous (a bad day, anxiety about an upcoming event, financial/life worries, etc.). Different skills can help to battle different triggers for depression.

For instance, if your depression is triggered or worsened by memories of childhood trauma or adverse childhood experiences, a therapist will teach you skills for dealing with the thoughts and feelings that re-surface in the form of depression and anxiety.

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Skills to battle depression and anxiety may include any of the following:

      • CBT
      • EMDR
      • DBT
      • Analytical Psychotherapy
      • More…

The best medicine truly depends on what exactly triggers your depression.

Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) For Depression

CBT, or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, is one of the leading forms of psychotherapy for depression. It is also used to help treat those with addictive behaviors (Addiction, substance abuse, and/or alcoholism), and can help you break personality traits and habits.

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How CBT Helps Depression and Anxiety

Depression is characterized by periods of time when a person’s sadness is overwhelming and interferes with their day-to-day lives. Those periods of time are usually caused and worsened by “triggers.” For instance:

    • A song could remind you of an ex-friend or lover…
    • The thoughts of this person can remind you of past actions you are ashamed-of…
    • This feeling of shame leads to doubt in yourself and thoughts/feelings that are painful or scary…
    • You become anxious about your future, feel like there is “something wrong with you”, and/or feel hopeless…
    • The cycle of depression digs deeper…
    • More triggers cause a pileup of negative thoughts and feelings until every moment of the day is filled with only negative (Sadness, shame, anxiety, self-doubt, etc.)

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The triggers are different for each person, but this is a real example of how one small strand can snowball into extended periods of depression and melancholy.

CBT Therapy teaches you how to deal with these triggers and not allow the small strands to build up into a bigger knot. CBT teaches you to look at that sad song trigger for what it really is — it is just a trigger that will lead you down a negative road if you let it… You don’t need it, and it has no bearing on your life and your happiness, whatsoever.

An individual that is experienced with CBT and has-practice will easily shrug-off the trigger and will not allow it to get to them. This is the magical difference between someone with untreated depression and someone that is working with a therapist.

The untreated may ask, “How am I supposed to just shrug it off? How am I supposed to NOT let it bother me?” Whereas, those with the skills to fight depression and anxiety recognize the trigger as something that will hurt them or make them feel bad, so they avoid it just as they would a dangerous snake or spider. CBT creates learned behaviors that keep the body and mind away from the pain and dangers of depression.

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Treating Depression and Anxiety from Childhood Trauma

Depression that stems from childhood trauma, adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) and PTSD, is slightly different that melancholia or depression that stems from a chemical deficiency.

With trauma, there is a past experience that put the person into a state of danger. The danger might be from a sexual assault, physical assault, mental assault, or other perceived threat to a person’s safety. The traumatic experience itself left a “learned behavior” in the individual’s mind. The triggers for depression and anxiety in trauma victims trigger feelings of sadness, anxiety or fear in-order to “Warn” of a dangerous situation.

This warning is kind of like a short-circuit in the brain that was hard-wired by the trauma. This is why a survivor of sexual assault my be triggered into depression and anxiety by the thoughts and feelings of sex, even with a trusted partner in a safe setting. The brain is still warning of a situation that it fears.

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Re-Setting Trauma Triggers for Depression

Seeing a therapist for depression can help you to learn techniques to re-wire your brain in a positive manner. Utilizing CBT, cognitive behavioral therapy can show you how to teach your brain new positive learned behaviors. Teaching your brain to relate touch of a loved one to happiness, safety and love can help to re-set the trauma triggers for depression seen in those suffering with trauma from a past sexual assault.

Learn More About CBT For Treating Clinical Depression

CBT for depression has shown such great results, that we encourage readers to read-on in our companion article HERE >>

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What is Discernment Therapy for Couples Counseling?

 

When couples are stuck in deciding whether or not to break-up, Discernment Counselors can offer a way to sort through the pros and cons of a decision in either direction.

What is Discernment Therapy for Couples Counseling?

Discernment Therapy is recommended for couples who are “ambivalent” about breaking up or divorcing. This means that they are unsure of whether or not they want to break up or stay together. Ambivalent couples tend to “lean-in and -out of their desire to break-up.

Couples needing discernment therapy and counseling are unsure of how to move-forward and are at a stalemate. A discernment relationship counseling can help couples to break the stalemate and move-forward with a decision confidently (whether that decision is to break-up or stay-together).

Discernment Therapy for Couples Looking to Make A Big Step Forward

Couples do not only use discernment therapy for the decision to end a relationship; couples can also discern whether or not to make a big step forward in the relationship: either getting engaged, married, having kids, or other life events.

What Are The Core Principles of Discernment Counseling?

Bill Doherty, a University of Minnesota counselor, developed the principals of Discernment Counseling as a way for couples to clarify whether or not their relationship problems can be fixed. The principals are based of 4 core questions that couples should ask each other and themselves:

      • What happened in the relationship that caused us to consider ending it?
      • What has been done to try and fix the relationship?
      • How do children factor in the the decision to end the relationship?
        • Either existing children or hopes for future children
      • What were the best best times we experienced in our relationship?

These 4 questions start the framework for looking-at the foundation of their relationship in the past, present and future. This foundation is the groundwork on-which the discernment of the relationship rests.

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Discernment Therapy Before Marriage Counseling

Often times, marriage counseling can begin with a lot of arguing and non-productive fighting and bickering. In these cases, discernment counseling BEFORE the marriage counseling can help to clear away many of the small issues that do not play a big part in the relationship, but cause a lot of arguments.

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By clearing away the  mess, and getting the couple to ask themselves if the want to continue, the couple and the counselor start marriage counseling with the ability to get directly to the core issues.

When Should You See A Discernment Counselor?

When you are thinking about ending your relationship or taking a big step forward is the best time to see a discernment counselor. A Discernment Therapist will help couples to organize their thoughts, ideas, worries and goals. This organization helps couples to confidently make decisions about moving-forward or ending a relationship.

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Separating The Decision to Save the Relationship from the Work to Save The Relationship

Not only does saving the relationship take a lot of work, but simply deciding whether or not to save the relationship is a big step. Discernment Therapy breaks it down into 2 separate phases: First, decide whether or not the relationship is worth saving. Then start building a path forward in the second phase; either a path forward together, or separately.

What Is The Difference Between Marriage Counseling and Discernment Counseling?

Couples in marriage counseling have already agreed to save their marriage. Couples in Discernment Counseling are weighing whether they want to save the marriage.

A big problem in marriage counseling is when 1 partner wants to save the marriage and the other has already decided to give up on the marriage. Marriage counseling will never be successful if the two partners have not yet agreed on whether to save the marriage — and technically,  these couples are still stuck in discernment therapy, not marriage counseling.

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The 3 Conclusions of Discernment Therapy

There are 3 conclusions, or outcomes, from discernment therapy:

      • Both partners commit to the work of couples therapy (commit to fix the problems).
      • Both partners agree to proceed with a separation.
      • The partners maintain the status quo (stay stuck in the stalemate and not commit to separating or working on the relationship)

It is important to understand that the third outcome (Maintaining the Status Quo) can be maintained for years… Like Tic-Tac-Toe, it will always end in a stalemate unless the two partners both allow the game to end.

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Discernment Counseling in Mesa, Arizona

At The Arizona Relationship Institute, Discernment Counseling is an integral part of all of our couples therapy and marriage counseling services. All couples must first decide whether or not the relationship is worth saving, and commit to saving the relationship — or no progress will be made.

Our therapists have a wide range of backgrounds, education, and specialties in their therapeutic backgrounds. Making us capable of successfully assisting with individuals, couples, and families in dealing with an equally wide range of issues.

Our integrated team of medical professionals, nutritional wellness technicians, behavioral health technicians, and nurses give us the ability to address numerous life-concerns that play a part in relationships.

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What Are The Four Horsemen of Bad Relationship Communication Habits?

 

When speaking with a relationship counselor, the therapist may mention “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse.” They are referring to the  4 toxic communication habits that hurt relationships — not to the biblical harbingers of doom. This article is designed to educate you about the 4 horsemen, so you understand what your counselor or therapist is talking about…

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Dr. John Gottman studied couples and how they approach issues in their relationship in a groundbreaking study in 1984. Based on what he observed, he categorized couples into those who were able to “Master” their problems, and those whose relationships turned into “Disasters.”

Masters and Disasters of Relationships

Dr Gottman studied the communication styles of couples and was able identify 4 behaviors in the “Disasters” group that all shared:

      • Criticism
      • Defensiveness
      • Contempt
      • Stonewalling

By simply looking for these 4 communication styles, Dr Gottman was able to accurately predict (within 90%) which couples would not be able to work-out their problems, and would end their relationship in a divorce or separation.

Further, Gottman found that helping couples to intervene in these 4 negative behaviors would increase the likelihood that the problems would be worked-out and the couple would stay together. He found that these four horsemen indicated the 4 points of communication that make-or-break the relationship. Couples that master these points can overcome even the bleakest of situations. — while those that let these points overcome them, end in disaster.

Criticism Between Couples

It is important to understand the difference between a “complaint,” and a “criticism.” A complaint – is something (like an annoying behavior or action) that partner points-out to another, with the hopes of fixing it together. A criticism is usually not specific to one action or behavior that is used more as an attack than pointing-out to help fix it.

The best example that everyone can understand, is a local store that you have shopped at for a while. As time goes by and your relationship with this store changes, you might have complaints or criticisms.

EXAMPLE #1: A Company

Example of a Complaint:

Your store used to offer loyalty rewards points, where I would get my 10th cup of coffee for free. You don’t do that anymore, and I really miss it. Will you be bringing it back?

Example of a Criticism:

This store has gone downhill! Don’t you even care about your customers anymore? I much prefer the way it used to be. I hope the management gets it together soon, or I will not be shopping here anymore!

EXAMPLE #2: A Person

Example of a Complaint:

You used to come home and kiss me first thing when you got home. Now you come home and the first thing you do is unload your problems from the day on me.  That snowballs into the rest of the night being about our problems and not about us. Maybe we should try to change our first priority in the evenings, and that will help the rest of our issues.

Example of a Criticism:

You’ve changed! Your not the same person you used to be any I don’t like who you are turning into. All you care-about and focus-on is our problems. I can’t keep going on this way and I don’t want to live like this with you.

With the above examples, it is clear to see how your attitude toward the situation can how you communicate can completely change the likely outcome. There are problems in every relationship, and couples need to address those problems; but, if you choose to communicate your issues as a criticism instead of a complaint, you will likely make the problem worse.

Defensiveness Between Couples

Everyone has the right to defend themselves, but much like “Complaint VS Criticism,” there is a right way and wrong way to go about it. Interestingly enough, the First Horsemen (Criticism) also usually leads to the Second Horsemen (Defensiveness). This creates a cycle that the couple cannot seem to get out of — a criticism leads to a defense and/or a criticism back at the other.

The best way to avoid defensiveness is to avoid criticism. However, once the fight has been started, it takes 2 cool heads to prevail, and both need to back down from their positions atop the first two horsemen. Otherwise, it will continue on its cycle between the two until one or both unleash the Third Horseman: Contempt.

Contempt Between Couples

This is a scary place for people to reach — and often the point where couples reach out to a Couples Therapist. The definition of “Contempt” says it all…

“Contempt: the feeling that a person or a thing is beneath consideration, worthless, or deserving scorn.”

Contempt is actually a natural reaction when we feel we have been attacked. It not a good feeling or a positive reaction, but it is a natural defense mechanism, nonetheless.

Contempt for our partners and the ones we care-for is not good, however. And the situation needs to be dismantled just like a ticking time bomb — before it dismantles the relationship.

When couples have contempt for one another, the criticisms and attacks continue. You will often hear couples say things like, “He/she doesn’t care about me anyway so I am doing what I need to do  focusing on myself, and doing what makes me happy.”  – This statement is stuffed full of criticism, defensiveness, attack AND places the partner as worthless and beneath their happiness.

The best way to avoid contempt in a relationship is to once-again avoid the first horseman: Criticism. Work on the problems at their roots — don’t wait until the blossom into a thorny bush, deeply anchored.

Stonewalling Between Couples

At this point the arguments and relationship is almost not salvageable. Stonewalling is when a person “shuts down” and refuses to acknowledge the situation or respond. They sit there, like a stone wall, and let words just bounce right off of them. Again, this is another natural defense mechanism — that the body triggers to avoid further stress on the body and mind.

Stonewalling happens in the short-term and the long-term. During an argument or an intense conversation, a person might shut down temporarily to avoid furthering the argument. However, stonewalling can happen in the long-term as well. This is when huge problems are living just below surface of the relationship, but one or both partners refuse to acknowledge them or bring them up again. The problems have not been addressed or solved, but hidden away while to couple keeps living day-to-day.

Why Do Some People Refuse to Believe Their Partner is Cheating on them?

An example of long-term stonewalling is when 1 partner is cheating, or having multiple affairs, and the other partner refuses to believe it or refuses to address the problem — hoping that the relationship can be saved and go on by pretending the problems don’t exist. This refusal to believe their partner is cheating is simply them stonewalling themselves.

Avoiding the Four Horsemen of Relationship Problems

As we have said multiple times in this article — the best way to avoid any and all of the 4 horsemen is to avoid the first horsemen: Criticism. Criticism in a relationship is like poison. This is easier-said-than-done, however. And this is why we strongly recommend couples therapy when couples get into problems that they cannot work out themselves. Most often, it is the four horsemen that are making their issues “unresolvable.” Therapists are trained to look for these negative behaviors and communication styles, and can help both partners to learn what they are and learn how to avoid them.

Tips for Better Co-Parenting: From Co-Parenting Counseling Professionals

 

Divorce rates are high across the United States, and many couples with children are separating or divorcing. When a couple with children decide to separate they often are so caught up in their own problems that that the thoughts and feelings of the children often become secondary.

A strong focus on co-parenting teaches parents to consider the thoughts and feelings of children when making family decisions with outcomes that also affect the children.

How Do We Define “Co-Parenting”?

There are many views on what co-parenting truly is, but co-parenting’s most basic definition is simply 1 or more parents working together for the benefit of a child or children. “Working for the benefit of the child”, being the main point  of co-parenting, parents often need to learn how to put their own wants and needs behind what is best for the benefit of the child or children.

Co-Parenting and Divorced Parents

The most popular view of co-parenting is that of divorced parents working together to raise their children. This easy to understand and relatable situation sees parents setting aside their differences for the benefit of the children. (Think “Mrs. Doubtfire” and other stories that illustrate the need for parents to get over their fighting in order to be better parents to their children).

Can Married Couples Benefit from Co-Parenting Counseling?

Yes! Often simply referred to as “Family Therapy” or “Family Counseling,” families with un-divorced parents can also benefit from the teachings of co parenting therapy. Sometimes even married couples have differences in opinions when it comes to how to raise a child, or what is expected from the children. When the differences of opinions are un-resolvable, parents seek help from family counselors and co-parenting therapists for help to mediate.

 

Tips for Better Co-Parenting:

Talk, Communicate & Plan – you and your co-parent won’t always agree on everything, but communicating and planning help you to bridge the gaps where you don’t see eye-to-eye. Talk through the differences — use communication as your tool to set aside the issues and focus on the goal: provide the best opportunities possible for your child. With the goal in-mind, and with effective communication, parents can get past any impasse.

Really Listen to What Your Children Say – A child’s mind works more simply than an adult’s, but that does not make them ignorant to what is happening in their lives and what their parents are discussing and acting-out. You should never discount what a child has to say about a situation or a family decision. In fact, it is usually the adults that over-complicate and make situations more complex, while children often have simpler views.

Acknowledge Real World Examples – The world is full of people who are products of their parents decisions. We can see the effects of parenting decisions every day. Sometimes the examples are too real or disturbing for us to bear, so we ignore them. (e.g. acknowledge the statistical issues that children face with limited visitation of a parent, before making a decision that removes/limits a parent’s custody).

Come Together As Strong Parents – Parents should have solidarity in their decisions and actions. If your child is pushing back, or testing the limits of your parental powers, you and your co-parent need to combine powers and stand together firmly. Parents divided against themselves can’t stand together. Unite for the benefit of your child.

Don’t Allow Your Fears and Anxieties Reproduce in Your Children – Many parents are too afraid to say something to their children, or are anxious about telling the truth. This is common in families with more traditional religious or societal values (Parents afraid to answer questions about sexuality from their kids). What you tell your kids is up to you… but don’t run away from their questions. Fear and anxiety is like a virus and your kids can develop fears and anxieties about certain topics, subjects, or their own feelings if they recognize this fear in their parents.

Professionalism as a Parent – When you are dealing with a difficult client or customer at work, you put on a business “hat” or “persona”. You speak politely, softly, and empathetically, working towards a common goal. This is exactly how parents that don’t get along need to act when co-parenting. Set aside your differences and get the job done.

Scheduling Tips for Co-Parenting – Most often, one parent is more organized and better at scheduling and planning than the other. Use each other strengths to work together! Don’t see this as a difference between you, show your child how human beings work together with strengths to overcome weaknesses and get better. Teach your child a positive lesson, instead of being critical of another’s strengths and weaknesses.

Make Sure Your Child Has a Healthy Personal Space – This is all too important; especially when a child is moved between 2 homes. A child needs to have his/her special personal space. A place where they feel comfortable with themselves, away from each parent. It might be as simple as their room or a place in the yard, or maybe at Grandma’s house, or at the library. Children need a safe place that they can “recognize” as their own. The importance of this can be lost in the shuffle between houses, sometimes. Remember to allow your child to be able to personalize their space, or have a space that they can call their own and allow their creativities to run free. Children who don’t have a personal space of their own often seek this out in negative actions (drugs and  alcohol), or at a friend’s house or personal space.

 

The Most Important Tip for Co-Parenting

Easily, the most important tip for parents who are separated, divorced, and/or co-parenting is to keep respect for each other as parents.

Keep Respect for Each Other As Co Parents

Couples don’t get along all the time. This is 100% normal. Human beings don’t get along all the time. Human beings can even fight or hurt the ones we love… we are a complex mess. Respect for each other is what holds the whole mess together. Mutual respect is what keeps some married couples together for over 50 years, and is what builds strong families.

Divorced and Separated couples can pass the value of respect to their children, which is one of the most priceless gifts a parent can give.

With respect, you can start co parenting and being friends again.

Why You Should Respect Your Co Parent

You should respect the mother of your child, because she is the mother of your child. This great miracle alone commands the respect of the father. Likewise, you should respect the father of your child, because he is the father of your child. Without the father, there is no child and no miracle. You two have come-together from across the universe to create this miracle and let it grow and learn.

The great miracles of motherhood and fatherhood go beyond our understanding, and sometimes we need to step back and look at the miracle when we get too caught up in the “small stuff.”

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How Faith-Based Couples Therapy Can Help Your Relationship

 

How Faith-Based Couples Therapy Can Help Your Relationship

The benefits of faith-based couples therapy are miraculous, and it is no wonder that the institution of marriage has its roots in a number of different religions. Whether Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Buddhist, Atheist, or Agnostic, every soul on earth can benefit from couples therapy that draws from faith and spirituality.

All couples are invited to bring their own beliefs and spiritual ideas to to a faith-based couples therapy session; the point is not to press religious teachings or values on a person, but rather to educate couples on what different faiths say about relationships and relationship problems.

Faith-Based Couples Counseling Offers Thousands Of Years of Experience

Religious scriptures (like the Bible, The Talmud, or Quran) are the main source of what we know about the lives of people who lived hundreds or thousands of years ago.  These books tell parables and stories about problems that people faced throughout history, including marital issues, infertility issues, jealousy issues, cheating spouses, and betrayal.

Nothing New Under The Sun

“Nothing New Under the Sun” is a phrase that simply means anything a person can think or do as already been done by another human being before them. Even though it feels like we are the first and only ones to experience our problems in love and loss, every aspect of every possible relationship has already happened to someone before.

So, when it comes to your own situation, it helps to recognize there is nothing new under the sun, and another relationship has experienced the exact same issues as yours. This is a good thing — this means that a solution and process to get you to that solution has already been invented. These processes are called faith-based couples counseling techniques.

Faith-Based Couples Counseling for Grief and Loss

We often turn to faith and spirituality in times of grief and loss, because grief transcends our daily understanding of the world. Grief reminds us of the fragility of life, and how quickly it can be lost.

When a person has lost someone close to them — through death, mental illness, or through separation — it hurts. The pain is mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual. This pain and trauma must be treated mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. Those who heal physically and mentally, but fail to heal spiritually, may leave an open wound that causes pain or negative issues later in life.

Helping to bring spiritual closure to people in times of extreme grief is the main job of a Faith Based Couples Counselor.

Faith-Based Couples Counseling for Life Changing Events

There are a lot of life changing events that come throughout the phases of life. Remember, there is nothing new under the sun, and someone else has been through the exact situation before. Therefore, we can learn valuable lessons from those who came before us.

    • Birth of a First Child
    • Growing Family
    • Relationship Issues With In-Laws
    • Relationship and Money Issues
    • A Family’s Big Move
    • Changing a Job or Career Path
    • Kids Moving Away
    • Divorce or Separation
    • Transitioning to Retirement
    • Death or Loss

For all of the above situations, there are also stories of spiritual guidance from our ancestors. Many written years ago, some written more recently, but all timeless in their validity to relationships.

Faith-Based Couples Counseling for Interfaith Couples

We all have different beliefs and creeds, which is a beautiful freedom that allows us to live our lives in a way that makes sense to us, and brings us fulfilment.

Even those of us in the closest of relationships will have different ideas and beliefs when it comes to spirituality and philosophy; but, it is important to not let these differences drive a wedge between us. That wedge will grow and separate close couples before they even realize what is happening.

When couples have a hard time dealing with life changing events, the spiritual differences may be too much to bear, and could prove to be the proverbial ‘straw that breaks the camel’s back.’ These couples desperately need the help of Interfaith Couples Counseling.

Interfaith Couples Counseling is provided by a therapist that helps both individuals in the relationship to sort through religious differences and differences of faith and practice (as they relate to the couple’s relationship and surrounding issues).

How The Arizona Relationship Institute Helps Couples with Faith-Based Therapy

At AZRI, we specialize in relationship therapy and the complex issues surrounding couples and their lives together. Faith, spirituality, religious upbringing, social customs, and practices play a much larger part in our lives than we realize — especially in relationships and marriages.

Our therapists are all from diverse backgrounds and spiritual beliefs, and have a wealth of education and experience that allows us to help couples with a wide range of issues and concerns. As the saying goes. “There’s nothing new under the sun…” Let us help you to understand how that saying can help you and your significant other.

How To Deal with Jealousy in a Relationship

 

How To Deal with Jealousy in a Relationship

Jealousy can be one of the biggest issues and tests in an intimate relationship. One person’s jealousy can put strain on a relationship, just as the other person’s reaction to the jealousy can cause further issues. These issues of jealousy often cause one or both partners to question the foundation of their relationship and seek counseling for jealousy issues.

What is Jealousy?

There are 3 common “definitions” or meanings for the word “Jealousy.”

    1.  “hostile toward a rival or one believed to enjoy an advantage” (ENVY)
    2.  “intolerant of rivalry or unfaithfulness” / “disposed to suspect rivalry or unfaithfulness” (RELATIONSHIPS)
    3.  “vigilant in guarding a possession” (SAFE IN ASSUMPTION / GUARD)

SOURCE: Merriam-Webster Definitions for The Word Jealous

What Does the Bible Say About Jealousy?

The bible speaks more on “Envy” than “Jealousy”, that is to say the first definition for the word jealousy. The bible calls “Envy” a mortal sin because it causes hostility and rivalry. Envy is considered a reaction a person has to another person’s possessions, family, or perceived advantages.

See Another: Resource on “Jealousy in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints”

Why is The Bible Important When Talking About Jealousy?

We mention the biblical definitions of jealousy and the 3 different definitions for a very good reason… there are 3 different types of jealousy and the circumstances around them differ greatly. When speaking about jealousy in a relationship, one must speak about the traditional views on monogamy, which are also rooted in biblical tradition.

Is There A Good Kind of Jealousy?

Merriam-Webster’s 3rd Definition for “Jealousy” is about as close to a “Good” kind of jealousy as you can get.  This version of the word was much more common in past centuries, but can still be understood today by the quote by Scott Buchanan – “…new colonies were jealous of their new independence.”

The above quote give a “justification” for jealousy, and is more likened to the word “Prideful” — though, in the use of the word like this, a strong defense (of the possession / object of desire and jealousy) is implied.

Misunderstanding of the Definition of Jealousy Itself Causes Relationship Issues

Which of the 3 definitions do you think of when you hear the word “Jealousy?” This varies drastically between different people, and the most confusion lies between 1 person who believes their jealousy is “Good Jealousy” (Definition #3, prideful and ready to defend your possessions, family, object of jealousy), and another person who believes the jealousy to be more of definition 1 or 2 (not valiant, but envious or overly suspicious).

With this simple misunderstanding or miscommunication on how one defines their own (Jealous) actions, 2 people can quickly feel like they don’t understand each other.

Just Because One Person Believes Their (Jealous) Actions Are Valiant or Warranted, Does Not Mean They Truly Are

1 single person can also misunderstand their own jealousy, believing they are being noble, valiant, sticking up for the relationship and their partner, and still be acting out feelings of hostility and (bad) jealousy. Humans are complex emotional machines, with lots of quirks like this.

Insecurity and Jealousy

Jealousy that stems from your own insecurity or lack of self confidence is an example of the most negative forms of jealousy. The problem does not lie in your partner or perceived threats from others, but the problem lives inside you. Until you face the problem and fix it inside yourself, this type of jealousy is like a poison that will rot away at your own sanity and happiness until it ruins the relationship as well.

How to Overcome Insecurity and Jealousy

Insecurity can be overcome, and you can be confident and happy. At this point, jealousy issues seem to dissolve away, because they no longer matter. The only problem is that it is a problem that lives inside you and only you can take the steps to fix it. Many cannot get themselves going toward building their own confidents, and end up stuck in a rut. Working with a therapist can help you to build confidence and sort through the issues that accompany lack of confidence and insecurity.

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Don’t Let an Impasse With Jealousy Ruin The Relationship

“Irreconcilable Differences” is the leading cause of divorce and relationships ending. It means that the two parties were simply not able to get over their differences or miscommunications, to the point where the relationship needs to be ended.

All too often, couples are eager to give-up and call something  “Irreconcilable,” without seeking to understand more about why the problem exists or persists. Some problems NEED a counselor or relationship therapist to intervene and help to rectify. Jealousy issues are the perfect example of marital and relationship problems that require counseling.

Jealousy Treatment from Relationship Therapists

A relationship in the midst of jealousy problems is an urgent case for relationship therapists. Jealousy issues push couples quickly toward frustration and extreme pressures that put the relationship to the test.

It is important that couples — that truly want to save their relationship — seek help from a counselor or therapist for jealousy issues before it is too late.

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Lymphatic Massage Benefits

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Integrated healthcare providers are leaning more towards utilizing “Lymphatic Massage” (also known as “Lymphatic Drainage”) in recent years. Arizona Relationship Institute uses lymphatic drainage massage as an optional integrated service for guests utilizing our other services. We truly believe in the potential benefits of lymphatic massage for our patients.

What is The Lymphatic System?

The lymphatic system in our bodies helps to rid toxins from the body and is complimentary to (works in conjunction-with) the circulatory system (blood, heart, vessels, veins, etc.).

 

 

Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lymphatic_system

What Does The Lymphatic System Do?

Put simply, the lymphatic system helps to rid the body of toxins, and “filters” blood and other body fluids. It is an essential part of a health immune system.

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Lymphedema and Swelling

Many times, the lymphatic system will slow or a blockage in the system can cause a backup of fluids. When this happens, you will see swelling in the feet, legs, extremities, and anywhere else the excess fluid is being retained. Those who are prone to chronic recurring bouts of swelling or suffer from long-lasting swelling may suffer from lymphedema or related issues.

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Relief for Swollen Legs and Lymphedema

While those suffering from swollen legs and lymphedema should seek a physician to determine the underlying cause of the edema, lymphatic massage can offer some relief for the symptoms.

Lymphatic Massage is also called “Lymphatic Drainage” for a very good reason — it helps to manually drain the swollen areas of the retained fluids. Much like open heart massage keeps the circulatory system manually pumping, so does lymphatic massage manually push the lymphatic system along. Though, lymphatic massage is much less invasive and rather pleasant for the patient.

Who Does Lymphatic Massage Benefit?

Lymphatic massage can be a benefit to anyone suffering from pain and discomfort attributed to swelling and fluid retention. Though it does have medical benefits, you don’t need a doctor to reap the benefits of lymphatic drainage and massage. Once could even perform lymphatic drainage on oneself — if the situation presented the need.

However, lymphatic massage is best performed by another person, preferably a massage therapist or chiropractor that is familiar with and trained in lymphatic drainage techniques. It can benefit of number of people, including:

      • Individuals Suffering from Lymphedema
      • Those With Rheumatoid Arthritis
      • Chronic Venous Insufficiency (CVI)
      • Diabetes Sufferers
      • Pregnant Women Suffering Swelling
      • Women and Men with Fluid Retention Issues

 

Why Does AZRI Offer Lymphatic Drainage in Mesa Arizona?

Many may be surprised to learn that one of the services we offer at Arizona Relationship Institute in Mesa is Lymphatic Drainage and Lymphatic Massage, but it fits perfectly into our integrated health services model. We focus on total overall mental and physical health, and work with an integrated treatment team of nurses, physicians, dietary technicians, and therapists with a wide range of specialties.

None of our clients are required to use our integrated services, but they are there for those who are interested. Our therapists may provide our guests with recommendations or more information on integrated therapies that they feel will be of the most benefit.

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Therapists Get The Conversation Going

Once someone feels comfortable talking with their therapist, they often begin to open up about things they have kept secret, including health problems or symptoms they have been worried about, but kept to themselves. Your therapist needs to be able to direct you to where these concerns should be addressed. Having a team of integrated physicians, nurses and health professionals helps your therapist to confidently guide you to the answers to your questions that they may not be able to professionally answer.

 

Integrated Treatment and Ongoing Therapy

The integrated treatment model helps you to reduce time spend traveling-to and scheduling appointments. Our Arizona Relationship Institute campus is located in Mesa, Arizona, and our integrated treatment providers with outpatient offices are located conveniently close to the AZRI location.

 

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What to Expect From Blended Family Support

 

Step Families and Blended Family Circles

If you are reading this, then you are considering Blended Family Therapy, or are wanting to learn more about the topic. At AZRI we specialize in Blended Families because so many of us come from blended families and are raising blended families of our own. We hope that the information below can help other blended families.

What Are Blended Families?

Simply put, families blended families are families that have merged from other separate family groups. The sitcom family “The Brady Bunch” are a classic example of a blended family, a Man and three sons join with a woman and three daughters to form a blended family. Blended families often form from divorcees and widows (and widowers) re-marrying.

Common Issues Affecting Blended Families

Families are complex and filled with a number of internal conflicts. These conflicts can be especially complex in blended families, especially if there are differing opinions on how the conflicts should be addressed. When these opinions fall along the blended family line, it can bring up unresolved feelings and issues like resentment.

How To Be A Parent In A Blended Family

When you are a “new” parent in a blended family it can be difficult to know the rules, boundaries, and best practices in dealing with your “new” daughter or son. Parenting styles can differ dramatically between two people, and it takes time to understand a person’s style of parenting – or how they act when they have to be an “authority figure.”

Kids Test Boundaries of Parents in Blended Families

Yes, our children our perfect little angels… except when their not! Kids love to test their boundaries and push parents’ patience. Even the most well-behaved children can be tempted to test their limits in a new household situation to see what they can get away with. This is a very natural reaction to an environmental change, and while you should be aware of your children’s needs you should not feel obliged to let them bend or break rules.

Sibling Rivalry in Blended Families

Sibling Rivalry is considered “health” to moderate competition between siblings (brothers and sisters). Parents need to be sure that this “competition” between siblings does not exceed moderate actions. Children often do have control or limitations developed in social competitive situations. Children can easily cross boundaries and become vindictive, aggressive, or focus on other negativities if left unchecked. In blended families, this happens as well; but is very prevalent in blended families where children lack natural familial bonds that have been set.

Blended Families and The Exes

Whether it is an ex-girlfriend, ex-boyfriend, ex-wife, or ex-husband, blended families come with many “Exes.” Navigating the relationships with these individuals is a part of the task for the blended family, as well as the Blended Family Counselor. If the “Ex” has a relationship to the children – as in the mother or father of one or more children in the blended family – then that person has certain rights that may overlap with the blended family situation. It is important to be clear that Blended Family Support IS NOT Family Custody Support.

What Do Blended Family Therapists Do?

Blended Family Therapists do what other family therapists do, they help families work through their everyday problems. The only difference is, Blended Family Therapists have a background that is focused on blended families. Many Blended Family Therapists even come from a blended family themselves.

What to Expect From Blended Family Support

A common misconception about Blended Family Therapy is that it is hardcore psychotherapy that is forced upon the family. Many children especially get anxious about “therapy,” thinking it is a scary or a stigmatized thing that they should feel ashamed about. Blended family support is about the farthest thing from intensive psychotherapy as you can get while still talking with a counselor.

Its easy, and simply chatting in a group or several smaller groups with your family and a family friend (Therapist) who helps the family members work together.

Blended Families and Couples Counseling

It is important to keep the various family problems in their own respective circles. For example, you are not going to be talking about “bedroom topics” with the children and the entire family… those topics are best suited for a smaller circle of the family. Likewise, the children do not need to be involved in many of the couples relationship issues. This is why it is best to have many different formats for working on the family’s problems. Couples counseling is a great example – We at AZRI may recommend Couples Counseling or other services alongside Blended Family Support.

 

Blended Family Support IS NOT Family Custody Support

A Blended Family Support Therapist is not a Family Custody Counselor and does not get involved in cases of child custody. Child custody arrangements should be well in-place before Blended Family Support is started. Sticking to the rules and schedules of an existing custody agreement is something that a therapist can help blended families to attain.

Co-Parenting Counseling for Blended Families

Co-Parenting Counseling is highly recommended for parents that share custody of children – even those who have no apparent issues with sticking with custody arrangements. The reason is that Co-Parenting helps push parents and children to achieve greatness in their relationships. Co-Parenting staves off bad parenting habits and promotes positive habits. Co-parenting keeps parents in a schedule or a “format” for setting aside and spending time with their kids.

Many of those in Co-Parenting Therapy rave about the benefits – stating that it “kept them on track” for dealing with the life changes in their children’s lives.

 

Can Children From Blended Families Be Normal?

One of the biggest worries from parents about raising their children in a blended family is if their children will turn out “normal.” This brings a giggle from therapists and those of us that know that there is no “normal.” But, it is important to understand what these parents are truly asking: “Will being raised in a blended family cause negative issues in my child?” To-which, the answer is NO!

Blended Families Do Not Cause Trauma

Simply living in a blended family does not cause trauma and does not harm a child. However, circumstances brought-on by a blended family situation can lead to trauma being inflicted. It is important to remember that it is not the blended family that causes the issue, it is the situation.

This can be a difficult concept to grasp – even for those struggling with this issue. Many blame the blended family situation for the problems, instead of placing blame where it should be. “Well this would have never happened if you and mom never divorced…” is a great example of placing blame on the blended family, rather than where it should be.

This is much more common than we realize, and many do it subconsciously. This is why Blended Family Therapists are so helpful – they help the family to see through mental illusions and tricks we play on ourselves. Once  you see through the illusion, the therapist and family can deal with the true cause of issues and traumas.

 

Can Blended Family Counseling Help?

If your family is growing as a blended family and you are curious as to whether therapy is right for you, we invite you to schedule a free 15 minute consultation. 15 minutes can help you to decide whether your family is going through normal growing pains, or if you need a blended family support specialist to help your family.

Should You Take Relationship Advice from Family and Friends?

 

We look to our family and friends for advice and direction in our lives often. Financial decisions, life changes, career direction… we share our thoughts and ideas with those around us while mulling over decisions. Essentially, the opinions and advice of our loved ones can help shape our decisions, especially in our relationships with other people.

Before you let the advice of a friend or family member shape your personal relationships, its best to consider the following caveats before accepting relationship advice from someone else.

Should You Trust Relationship Advice from Family and Friends

Relationship Advice Differs from Men to Women

It is important to consider the “mental gender” of a person. Both men and women can have decisively male or female mentalities. Some women can have a very “male” mentality about relationships and sex, and vice versa. Male and female mentalities can be complex, but the best way to explain this is in the following way:

Consider your friend (giving advice) and their attitude toward relationships. Do they focus on emotional aspects over logical aspects? This would show a female-dominant mentality toward sex and relationships. Adversely, a woman or man that takes a more casual outlook on relationships and tends to not over-analyze the emotional aspects has a more male-dominant mentality. We all sit at different places on the spectrum, but it is important to know which side of the spectrum the person giving the advice sits-on, in relationship to you.

Simply, If you are looking for emotional answers from someone who doesn’t relate well emotionally in their own personal relationships, the advice you get probably is not going to match what you were hoping  to hear.

This is why you can ask the same question about your relationship to 2 different people and get widely different opinions. Even when you ask to males or 2 females (Their relationship mentalities can be more female or male dominant).

What does all this mean? Consider the dominant mentality of your friend giving the advice. A friend who is more emotionally charged in relationships than physically charged will give advice coming from that side of the spectrum. Be sure that their relationship goals match with yours.

Relationships Between Men and Women are Complex

Men, Women, and the Relationships Between Them Are Complex

The relationships between men-and-women, men-and-men, and women-and-women are complex and interconnected. Relationships, much like a dance, are fluid and move… they do not stand still. This forces both partners in the relationship to constantly change and move as well. Without movement, there is no life, only death; and without movement, a relationship stagnates and dies.

Keeping Up With Relationship changes

One of the biggest challenges in a relationship is keeping up and adapting to changes. Human beings are afraid of changes and most tend to recoil from change, or fight back against change. We often are so resistant against change, that we can end up hurting ourselves in our fighting back. This is very apparent in relationships where one or both individuals are facing a imminent change and the relationship is suffering due to fighting against the inevitable.

Relationship Advice from Family and Parents

Be Ready to Hear What Relationship Advice is Given

If you are resistant against change, and someone is suggesting change to you as relationship advice, you will likely fight back against the change and the advice, and possibly the friend giving the advice. We have to be ready to hear what the advice our friends and family give, even if their suggesting an uncomfortable change.

Relationship Advice for Introverts

One of the most common fight-against-change situations with relationship advice comes when someone gives relationship advice to an introvert. Why? Because quite often the advice is to: Stop being so introverted… let your feelings out. Share your emotions. Be outgoing. Don’t take everything to heart. Don’t be emotional!

This is a crux, where we are no longer giving relationship advice, but commenting on a person’s personality. If the personalities aren’t matching up in a relationship, the mismatch is the problem — NOT THE PERSON, their personality, or their characteristics. It is simply a mismatch in connectivity.

Friends and family, at this point, will often point out character flaws that THEY see and believe are causing issues with the relationship. Remember, just because this is THEIR opinion and what they see, does not make it the truth or the best advice for you.

Family and Friends Causing Relationship Issues

Humans Try to Fix Flaws

Asking relationship advice from a professional (like a therapist or a counselor) is always better, because they have been trained to look deeper into the relationship and not just point out surface flaws (like many of our close friends and family may). Non-professionals like family and friends will always give you advice on your relationship if you ask them for it. We trust our family and friends, but quite often they are not the best for answers. Humans will attempt to fix things, even if they are not equipped with the skills to do so — it is our human nature.

Knee-Jerk Reactions, Cursory Opinions & Shallow Advice

More often than not, the relationship you get from family and friends is going to be biased in some way. Be ready to hear someone stretch the truth to make it more comfortable, or tell you a lie to make you feel better. Friends don’t have a job to do when giving you relationship advice, they are looking for a quick and easy solution. Either a solution to end the conversation, or a solution that seems to work on the surface. These hasty opinions might not be all that reliable and may not be the best for you, but — on the surface — seem to close the problem.

Telling a Friend Hard Truths

Telling the truth can be painful, especially when doing so may hurt someone we love. Expect that a person that cares for you may tell you a lie before telling you a truth that would hurt you. If so, that is not advice at all and should not be considered. Many struggle to identify this and may take bad advice and act on it.

Why Relationship Therapists Are Best For Relationship Advice

We, as therapists, respect the input from family and friends but don’t put a lot of faith in this “advice” solving the problems or bringing closure to the issues. Not only do you need a therapist to act as an outside advisor in the relationship, but therapists dig deeper into the situations to get to the root of the problems. (treating the disease vs just treating the symptoms).  This allows for truly solving the root cause of issues and helping individuals to get more out of their personal relationships.

Should I Listen to Family and Friends About My Relationship?

Yes, family and friends SHOULD give their input on your relationship. However, consider it INPUT and not advice. Others opinions should only help to shape YOUR opinion, and your opinions should be informed and help you to make a healthy decision.

Are you confused by the advice and input from others about your relationship? Couples or Individual Therapy can help you to sort things out and clear your head…

What Are The Types of Grief Counseling?

 

What Are The Types of Grief Counseling?

Grief is an emotion someone experiences due to sorrow over loss. The loss is usually the death or loss of someone close, but an individual can experience grief at any time for any number of reasons that are considered a devastating loss to that person.

The loss of a pet, the tragic death of a co-worker, or even the loss of a business can trigger feelings of grief. Some may even experience grief at the loss of opportunities — like missing a promotion, realizing you are unable to fulfill a dream, or any form of regret that also pains you as a loss.

It is important to realize that grief is an emotion or a state that a person is-in; it is not the cause of the emotion (the death / trigger), it is the reaction in your mind and body to the trigger. The reaction to the action of loss.

With a wide spectrum of types of grief and triggers for grief, it is important to break out the types of grief counseling to see the commonalities and differences. Therapy and counseling techniques should always be tailored to each induvial and case; however, there are some very common forms of grief therapy that we will touch upon below…

The Stages of Grief:

We will speak a lot about moving through the different phases of grief, so it is important to have an idea of what those phases are. There are 5 phases of grief, though some modalities recognize 7 phases. Most therapists stick with just the 5-phase model, though we will list both below:

The 5 Stages of Grief Vs. The 7 Phases of Grief

The steps are non-linear, meaning people don’t usually go through them in order, and steps can be repeated and progress lost or made toward ultimate acceptance and closure.

Five Stages of Grief:

        • Denial
        • Anger
        • Bargaining
        • Depression
        • Acceptance

The Seven Phases of Grief:

        • Shock
        • Denial
        • Anger
        • Bargaining
        • Depression
        • Acceptance and Hope
        • Processing Grief

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Christian Grief Counseling

What is different about Christian Grief Counseling? Christians hold many beliefs, practices, ideas, and ideologies about both life and death. When discussing matters of both life and death with a Christian individual, couple, or family, it is important to have a shared understanding about the basics of the Christian faith.

Though there are many different forms of Christianity (LDS, Catholic, Protestant, etc.), they share many of the same foundations, and are based on the teachings and history of Jesus Christ. A Therapist-patient relationship is often more efficient when the two share a common ground. Sharing a spiritual common ground has helped many therapists and individuals work through a number of problems, especially grief and end of life counseling issues.

The Arizona Relationship Institute employs a diverse staff from a range of cultural backgrounds and faiths. Meet our AZRI Therapists and start your free consultation to begin the process of setting up Grief Therapy with a therapist you like, get along with, and can help you be a better you.

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Grief Anxiety Counseling

We started this article by clarifying that a death does not need to have occurred for a person to begin to get feelings of grief. A person only needs to feel a sense of loss for their emotions to turn into grief. Grief Anxiety  Counseling is a service we offer at AZRI, and is a prime example of a type of “grief anxiety.” What is Grief Anxiety? It is simply the worry or fear about the deaths of others that manifests itself into grief. A person grieves a family member, friend or loved one before they have died.

This is most common when someone you know is terminally ill. When someone is in the later stages of cancer or a disease in-which death is inevitable, your mind struggles with understanding many aspects of the what is coming and it emotionally manifests as grief and loss. It is important to work through the grief emotions at this time, or the grief could last longer than it should and turn into an ongoing depression or other negative mental health condition.

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Those that are terminally ill also need to work through their own set of grief emotions. They too are feeling a great sense of loss and may be grieving their own life, their regrets, the loss of mobility, and other personal losses. Grief Counseling for the Terminally Ill is important for those that have not yet made-peace or are ready to transition from this life. Terminally ill patients can usually get in-person or virtual therapy sessions easily scheduled based on their preference and abilities.

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Child Grief Counseling

Specifically, counseling for the loss of a child. We want to again point out that the loss does not mean the death of the child; but may be the loss of a child due to custody issues, parental rights issues, separation of blended families, or even the loss of your child’s innocence (turned to drugs and alcohol, other serious problems).

A parent who loses a child, whether through loss of contact or death, moves through the stages of grief at different speeds; but, it is important for them to move forward through the stages to the point of closure and acceptance.  This is the healing process that brings those stricken with grief to a happier life.

Pet Grief Therapy in Arizona

Pet Grief Counseling

As living creatures, we form very close relationships with other living creatures. Animals and pets can be our friends, our companions, our sons & daughters, or  our brothers and sisters. When we lose those close to us, we always experience grief in some form.

When an individual struggles deeply with grief, it becomes hard for them to concentrate on their own life and make positive decisions. It is at this point that one needs to seek grief therapy to help them move through the steps.

At AZRI, we commonly deal with grief from the loss of pets and animal companions and offer a wide range of available therapy options that can help you find closure and move on from the loss of those closest to you.

Adolescent and Teen Grief Counseling

Children, teens, young adults, adults and the elderly all grieve differently. Grieving has a lot to do with what stage of life you are in. Teens and young adults experience grief in a different way than adults, so it is important that a teen grief therapist has extensive experience with both teen counseling and grief counseling.

Experiencing death during the formative years of life leaves a lasting imprint on a person. It is very important for these emotions and feelings of grief to be dealt with in a positive way in the teen years. Otherwise, complex issues like regret, shame and guilt could negatively affect them in later years.

Adolescent Grief Counselors should help teens to find their own motivations for life through the grief, and move them through the negative steps of grief and into the healing and acceptance phases quickly, but at a comfortable pace for the adolescent.

Grief Counseling for Adults and Families

Loss affects more than just 1 person in most circumstances. A death especially affects all those that have ever interacted with the deceased. In some circumstances it may be best to engage in therapy for more than one member in a single family. Family Grief Counseling is available for families that are interested.

Adults seeking grief therapy and counseling for themselves or for their family should schedule a free consultation to begin the process of healing:

Grief Counseling for Couples

Many couples that enter into couples therapy and counseling come to find that they have unresolved feelings of loss — either from previous individual losses or shared losses. Couples may have lost their own loved ones earlier in life, or are struggling with grief anxiety and aging or terminally ill loved ones. Not only has Couples Grief Counseling helped with underlying marital and spousal issues, but proper grief counseling between couples can ensure that both partners resolve their own griefs and the relationship remains healthy.

Trauma and Grief Counseling

When an individual has experienced past trauma (Traumatic Experiences, Adverse Childhood Experiences [ACEs], etc.) their psyche and mental state has been damaged and there are often lingering effects. Those with PTSD and Trauma should work with therapists and counselors that recognize modern trauma-based therapy and trauma-informed therapy.

Our counselors and therapists at AZRI are not only trained in trauma-specific therapy but have experience in its related psychotherapies (CBT, etc.). It can be very comforting to work through grief with a therapy that has an understanding of the emotions surrounding both trauma and grief.

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