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Author: Donnella Lincoln

Donnella is a high-energy mental health professional who enjoys working with couples and individuals that are seeking to improve their personal/intimate relationships; however, she services a variety of clients, including couples/relationships, individuals and groups. She has a master’s in Clinical Mental Health Counseling.
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Understanding Narcissism: Why Self-Reflection is Key to Healthier Relationships

Understanding the Narcissist Label

I can’t tell you how many people sit down in my office and say, “I’ve been reading online about narcissists, and [x] fits the textbook definition of one!” Everyone seems to know at least one or two. As your counselor, I’m an advocate for you. I’m on your team. So when you bring up that narcissist in our session, I’m going to hold so much compassion and empathy for you and what you went through with that person because your experience is important. It matters.

However, as an advocate for you, I think it’s also important to consider your own fighting styles, behaviors, and thought processes that went into the results of those outcomes, whether it be continued stress at a job from your employer, separation from a relationship that you never felt peace in, or teetering back-and-forth between inviting your parents to their grandchildren’s birthday parties or refraining from inviting them to anything ever again.

Debunking the Myths About NPD

Contrary to popular belief, if we are following the “textbook definition” of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), then it’s likely that [x] wouldn’t actually meet the clinical requirements for that diagnosis given that only 1-2% of the population actually qualifies for a clinical diagnosis, according to the American Psychiatric Association (2024).

Social media pop culture perpetuates this idea that if someone does not like you, disagrees with you, treats you disrespectfully, or constantly fights with you, then the “reason” for that is because they are grade-A narcissists, do not have it in their nature to see your point of view, nor do they care about your point of view, and you’re just an innocent bystander in the burning path of the wrath of someone who is not capable of compassion in the slightest. They’re too self-absorbed, full of themselves, and busy believing they are always right, no matter what, to lend even an ounce of empathy.

Identifying Unhealthy Communication Patterns

I’ve been in a tumultuous relationship. I can tell you, that while that relationship was not the right one for me, I also was not completely innocent. Looking back, I expressed myself in ways that I’m not proud of. I also don’t judge myself too harshly for reacting in the ways I only knew how at the time.

If you got into an argument with your partner and they yelled at you while you sat there zoning out on the couch, then I know we can all agree that yelling is not going to be the most effective in resolving whatever the conflict is. That is a vastly inappropriate way to communicate anger. That’s not how anyone deserves to be treated.Conversely, If you got into an argument with your partner and they yelled at you while you sat there on the couch and smiled at them to their face to egg them on and instigate a further escalated reaction. Which is way more subtle and covertly aggressive, but you omitted that information from others when sharing the details of the conflict. All you are doing is owning a victim mentality and ignoring your contribution to the fight, which is going to give you the same results you’ve only ever gotten.

Neither of those ways, overtly or covertly, aggressive or passive-aggressive, are healthy and effective ways to communicate negative emotions, which we all experience as human beings and are entitled to express in a safe space.

Addressing Abuse and Maintaining Boundaries

In no way, shape, or form am I or will I ever condone abuse of any type (mental, physical, or emotional). It is your responsibility to treat others with respect and care. If you are being abused or believe you might be being abused, we can get you the help you need and work with you through the traumatic experiences you’ve endured. NPD is a serious concern and will be treated as such.

The Person-Centered Approach to Therapy

As an advocate for mental health and each individual’s story, I use a person-centered therapeutic approach in sessions, which means you as the client bring what you need to the table and that I do not judge it or criticize you, but rather BELIEVE you and your story, then work as a guide or resource to support you while YOU do your own work.

Taking Accountability and Recognizing Boundaries

Judgment (for both others and ourselves) usually doesn’t work too well. Part of doing the work for all of us is recognizing and taking accountability for ourselves, including owning shortcomings and contributions to conflicts. It is perfectly healthy to have boundaries and to abide by the boundaries of others. It is also normal to view the opposing force in a negative light when conflict ensues. Their negative qualities will be emphasized because our own bodies are trained to respond to danger in order to protect ourselves.

What I will encourage is to own your piece of it, whatever that is. Everyone’s “piece” looks differently, and we as counselors are not here to judge it, we just want to help you observe it to incite the changes you need and want.

The Power of Emotionally Focused Therapy

The counselors at AZRI are trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy, which is a therapeutic approach that hones in on underlying emotions and relational needs by identifying what is called a “negative communication cycle.” The negative communication cycle is represented by an infinity loop (each side of the loop is each person in the dynamic), and on the surface level, consists of behaviors and interpretations, while the deeper level is comprised of the felt emotions and attachment needs.

Being able to practice mindfulness and minimally take ownership of your side of the cycle is the first step in changing the negative feedback loop so that you can improve your relationships. The couples/individuals that are willing to practice mindfulness, take ownership of their part in the relationship distress, and move with intentionality in their communication usually come out on the other side with additional perspective, healthy, assertive communication skills, and more compassion/empathy for themselves and others.

Empowerment Through Self-Awareness

I ask that before you diagnose your ex, your mother-in-law, your boss, or your partner with NPD, try first to focus your energy on developing an awareness of the work you can do, what boundaries you need to establish to protect yourself, and communication tools that are going to serve you in the long term. That way, moving forward, you can control the change that you actually HAVE control of, and that will help you have healthier relationships with others and with yourself.

If you still land on the other person being a Narcissist, then worst-case scenario, you would have acquired some self-care strategies and tools to keep yourself safe, happy, and healthy.

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American Psychiatric Association. (2024). What is narcissistic personality disorder?. Psychiatry.org – What Is Narcissistic Personality Disorder? https://www.psychiatry.org/news-room/apa-blogs/what-is-narcissistic-personality-disorder 
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Children of Divorce

The decision to get a divorce is usually not an easy one. One of the biggest factors to consider is the impact it will have on your family—particularly the children. If divorce ends up being the best course of action for you and your family, then ensuring that the kids’ needs are fulfilled should be a top priority for both parents.

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Impact of Divorce on Children

Time and time again, teachers, officers, judges, counselors, and other professionals involved in the divorce process with parents/children see the negative impact that the divorce solely can have on the kids. According to Anderson (2014), the effects of divorce on children can bleed into the child’s family relationships, education, emotional development, and projected earning power. The negative consequences are more weighted if the divorce is high-conflict. The potential negative consequences the child(ren) experience are losing time with each of their parents, having less financial and economic security, having less emotional security, are less physically healthy, etc. (Anderson, 2014).
Being asked to choose sides in a divorce.

Parent/Child Roles in Relationships

Reinforcing the message that no matter what, your children are going to be loved, taken care of, and prioritized, is essential to their emotional and physical development and well-being. It is the job of the children to be children, and the job of the parent to be the parent—those roles should not be mixed. It is not up to your kids to relay messages, to share the opinions you might have of the other parent, or to emotionally support you when you are feeling angry, afraid or upset with the other parent, etc. Doing so inevitably can create confusion, stress, and anxiety for the kids.
The message children receive when they have to bear the weight of the parents’ problems is that they have to choose between their parents. The kids, as human beings, are built and wired to be connected to their parents, and so that can lead to the thinking that if they don’t make the “right choice”, their needs won’t be met and they won’t be loved. They hear that they are “bad” for loving their other parent. A child has parts of each of their parents, and if you tell them that they should be estranged from those other parts, then you are telling them they are not safe to be themselves.

Encourage Healthy Relationships to Ease Grief/Loss

Anderson (2014) highlights that the grief that children experience as a result of their parents getting divorced is ongoing. With every important event (birthdays, holidays, etc.), especially when parents do not get along, that grief is perpetuated because it “reminds the child of his/her loss.” Each parent, as a unique individual, has their own strengths and weaknesses that, barring any abuse or neglect, can help balance the other parent in order to positively impact the children with their own unique differences and vice versa.
If divorce is the right path for your family, then doing everything in your power to encourage healthy relationships between your child and the other parent and your own relationship with your child, despite the personal, individualized relationship that you might have with the other parent, in order to maximize the love, nurture and safety that they get and feel with both of you, is going to be a protection for your children against the already difficult consequences they experience from their parents separating.
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References
Anderson J. (2014). The impact of family structure on the health of children: Effects of divorce. Linacre Q. 81(4):378-87. doi: 10.1179/0024363914Z.00000000087. PMID: 25473135; PMCID: PMC4240051.
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Attachment Theory and Relationships

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Attachment Theory and Relationships
By Donnella Lincoln, LAC

When we are first born, we are completely helpless. We cannot feed ourselves, change ourselves, or protect ourselves. We have to rely on our parents or caregivers to do that for us. Our survival depends on depending on others. This is not true for every creature on Earth. Snakes, for example, do not need their mother snakes to look after them once they are hatched. They are able to immediately move around, catch their own prey and protect themselves. As a human being, because our survival depends on others fulfilling our needs, we have what’s called proximity seeking behaviors. Our bodies, specifically our nervous systems, are directly connected to our attachments and relationships.

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What Is Attachment Theory?

For example, a baby crying is never a baby crying for no reason. The baby is in some sort of distress. A baby cannot communicate immediately if it is hungry, tired, cold, hurt, etc., so it engages help by crying. Most people are averse to hearing a baby cry, which is the exact evolutionary point of the baby being able to cry to begin with. It ideally springs the caregiver into action to respond to the baby and fulfill its needs so that the crying ceases. Crying is a proximity seeking behavior.

As we grow older, we develop more communication skills and more independence; however, how responsive our caregivers were to our needs and our expectations (usually subconscious) to those needs being met, shapes how we continue to request or demand that our needs be met.

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What Are Attachment Styles?

Thus, the concept of attachment theory, styles and strategies is born. Research has shown that we are built and wired for connection. Our bodies are oftentimes more apt at remembering how we have previously succeeded in having our needs met than our logic and reasoning thoughts. If crying has been successful in making sure my needs are met, then that’s what I am going to do next time I have a need that needs to be addressed, even if I am not aware that’s what I’m doing.

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Secure Attachment VS. Insecure Attachment and Avoidant Attachment Style

There are two categories of attachment styles—secure and insecure. Secure attachment style (secure behavioral and emotional responses) is indicative that a person, either growing up or in their adult relationships, feels safe, nurtured, and responded to sufficiently in their needs, physically and emotionally. Their nervous systems are not thrown into complete dysregulation at every sign of conflict, big or small, and they are not guessing if they are loved or cared for by others. They feel safe to explore the world, manage themselves and fulfill their own needs as well. There is a balance of healthy independence/autonomy and healthy relationships/communication. Insecure attachment styles (anxious, avoidant and disorganized strategies) are on a scale of how anxious/fearful you are (of abandonment) and how assertive/avoidant you are in dysregulation.

With anxious strategies, there is higher anxiety and fear of abandonment, physical and/or emotional. With avoidant strategies, there is higher avoidance/withdrawal and focus on independence. With disorganized, it’s a conflicting push-pull due to extreme dysregulation with being fearful of abandonment and high avoidance.

Instead of using the attachment styles as identity markers (ie, “I am anxious attachment” or “my style is secure”), I like to think of them more like the different categories are on a graph. It is likely that most people will exhibit different strategies from multiple styles, so the question I like to ask in sessions is, “What strategies do you most often use when vulnerability hits the room?”

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Can Attachment Therapy Change Your Attachment Styles?

One of the most beautiful things about attachment styles is that wherever you land on the attachment graph is not where you are necessarily stuck. If you primarily use anxious strategies, you can move towards secure. There are lots of research, resources, books, and videos on attachment theory, styles, and strategies. This is also something that you can work with and through in individual or couple’s therapy with a therapist who is well-versed in attachment theory.

 

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We Are Love

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Growing up, I changed my mind about what I wanted to be a few times. My earliest career choice was as a singer/performer. Then it changed to President. Then journalist, actress, teacher and finally, counselor.

I was very active and involved in high school. I was on my school’s newspaper, the theater state board and high school board, was the school’s news anchor, on yearbook, was student teaching a 1st grade English Language Learners class, was in advanced/pre-college courses, etc. I lived and breathed school. I was also in a serious relationship.

That relationship took a lot of my energy and focus. He did not have a supportive, healthy family, had eventually dropped out of school, and did not want me to go to college. After high school, I hadn’t applied to the university I wanted to go to, and we moved in together. I became pregnant with our son and eventually dropped out of the community college I was attending to focus on working and taking care of our household. Around a year after our son was born, our situation became dangerous and, to protect our son, I ended the relationship.

So, he left. And I was left to pick up the pieces. Our circumstances were highly traumatic—but I leaned on my supports and worked hard to provide for us. We sacrificed a lot. His dad was legally obligated to help, but didn’t, and I didn’t pursue it. Our son didn’t deserve that.

I wasn’t even angry for myself. I probably should have been. I was just so heartbroken for my son. But here, I let love win. Because that’s what we needed.

I went back to school. Associate’s to Bachelor’s to Master’s. Worked multiple jobs to make ends meet. Spent time with my son, tried to balance my social life/relationships, slept where I could. Moments of sadness transformed sometimes into spirals of anger.

Somehow, I stayed living in love. It kept me from resorting to attacks, pursuing “justice”, and inviting chaos back into our lives. I was deeply hurt but recognized that my desire to “do” something other than focus on my own relationship with my son and our well-being would have been BECAUSE I was hurt. So the saying goes that “hurt people hurt people.” It wouldn’t have served a purpose. It would have clouded my judgement and blocked love in my heart.

How to Not Be Spiteful After A Bad Relationship

There are so many times, even now, where a specific Game of Thrones scene pops into my head. The Queen of Dragons, who wishes to change the world, end slavery, and protect the lives of innocent people, lets a moment of deep pain and trauma trigger her into violating her own values and beliefs—which are grounded in love. She calls upon her dragon, Dracarys, to burn a whole city filled with innocent lives in order to avenge her most trusted confidant and advisor’s murder.

Moving On After Ending A Relationship

After starting graduate school, I knew that I wanted to specialize working with relationships. Shortly after, I met the loves of my life. My son and I are now a part of a beautiful, blended family. My son now has siblings and I have a teammate. A man that loves and protects us, that is a loving partner and father. I do the work that I do because I believe in love so much. It is always there. It’s our natural state. We are all born full of love and just hoping to have that need fulfilled; we need to be connected for literal survival. We just have to allow it to show itself.

While hurt people may hurt people, hurt people may also love people. Hurt people may also heal people. We are able to break the cycles of pain and instead, move with love. You are Love. We are Love.

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How Self Esteem Plays a Role in Healthy Relationships

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Having healthy relationships and connections with others is imperative to our overall health and wellness as humans. We are built for connection. However, we often don’t consider how our relationship with and view of ourselves impacts our relationships and individual health. There is a quote that says, “we accept the love we think we deserve.” If we do not have a positive view of ourselves, it seems unlikely that we would have healthy and fulfilling relationships with others.

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What is Self Esteem?

Self-esteem can be defined as one’s confidence and value in themselves. It is how we see ourselves and thus impacts how we relate to others and the world. It involves our own opinions, beliefs, judgements, feelings and values about ourselves.

People who exude confidence and practice good self-care habits have better self-esteem because they place value in themselves (GoodTherapy, 2018). If we value ourselves, we are motivated to take care of ourselves with positive self-talk, healthy mental/physical nutrition, and a loving/supportive network. Conversely, those with low self-esteem are more likely to suffer from mental and physical health concerns like depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and/or substance use (Henriksen, Ranøyen, Indrdavik, & Stenseng, 2017).

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Overcoming Criticism and Negative Judgement

Self-esteem plays a vital role in mental and physical well-being, particularly for developing adolescents. While self-esteem generally increases as people get older, there are big differences for self-esteem depending on age and gender (American Psychological Association, 2016). As a child, if we feel listened to, respected and accepted, we are more likely to grow up having higher self-esteem and confidence in our abilities. If we experience more criticism, negative judgement and doubt for mistakes or our abilities as a child, it is more likely to negatively impact our self-esteem and lead to behavioral and mental health problems (Sussex Publishers, 2019).

Low self-worth can be chronic and ongoing or triggered by an event, stress and/or trauma. Practicing mindfulness and identifying what your triggers are, what the negative thoughts/dialogue sounds like, and with who/where you’re experiencing more self-doubt can be helpful in implementing change.

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Therapy for Low Self Esteem & Building Confidence

If you notice that you have low self-esteem and would like to work towards loving yourself more, therapy is a great place to start. In the meantime, you can practice daily affirmations, identifying and focusing on your strengths, and surrounding yourself with others that help you feel loved and accepted. It’s also important to remember that “comparison is the thief of happiness”, so comparing yourself to others is most likely going to be more harmful than helpful in increasing your self-esteem.

Dr. John Gottman, a relationship and marital psychologist and researcher, emphasizes the 5 to 1 ratio for positive to negative interactions in relationships for couples to maintain happiness and balance. My personal spin on this is to utilize the 5 to 1 ratio in our relationship with ourselves, which means catching our negative self-talk and thoughts, then being intentional with changing them to speak more positively, kindly and compassionately to ourselves.

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“Remove the ‘I want you to like me’ sticker from your forehead and place it on the mirror, where it belongs.”

 

Therapy Tips

  1. American Psychological Association. (2016). Self-esteem gender gap more pronounced in western countries. American Psychological Association. https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2016/01/self-esteem-gender
  2. GoodTherapy. 2018. Confidence pick-me-up! self-esteem quotes to boost your mood. GoodTherapy.org Therapy Blog. https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/confidence-pick-me-up-self-esteem-quotes-to-boost-your-mood-0526187
  3. Henriksen IO, Ranøyen I, Indredavik MS, Stenseng F. 2017. The role of self-esteem in the development of psychiatric problems: a three-year prospective study in a clinical sample of adolescents. Child Adolesc Psychiatry Ment Health. 11:68. doi: 10.1186/s13034-017-0207-y. PMID: 29299058; PMCID: PMC5747942.
  4. Sussex Publishers. (2019). The relationship with yourself. Psychology Today. https:/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sustainable-life-satisfaction/201906/the-relationship-yourself 

 

 

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Keeping the Spark Alive

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Keeping the Spark Alive

By Donnella Lincoln

I’ve always thought of butterflies as a mixture of excitement and anxiety. Butterflies flutter when you’re standing onstage right before performing in a big show, right before jumping out of an airplane, or right before going on a first or second date with someone you really, really like.

The Honeymoon Phase of Relationships

A real butterfly’s lifespan lasts about 2-5 weeks, but when it comes to new relationships, those butterflies in your tummy can last just a little bit longer. It seems like, in the beginning, you and your partner can do no wrong—everything is amazing, carefree, and fun. This is typically known as “the honeymoon phase.” It lasts anywhere from a few months to a few years. At some point, however, that newness fades, relaxation sets in, and maybe even irritability or anxiety presides more often, prompting conflict to arise.

And that’s okay–we can work through some conflict. It’s alright if, before, we were blind to our partner’s flaws and missed that they folded towels differently than us, or that they leave dishes in the sink right after we finish cleaning them. We can handle differences in favorite types of movies or where we want to go out to eat for date night. After other big life transitions, like moving in together, getting married, or having children/pets, it seems like it gets harder and harder to overlook the little things. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had couples come in (whether they’ve been married for decades or dating for a couple years) tell me they wish that “things would be like they were before” or were like “the beginning.”

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What To Do When the Butterflies in a Relationship Wear Off?

That’s a pretty tall order. How do we accomplish that? How can we go back to the way things were in the beginning? Or at least be excited and motivated to spend time with our partners so that we can feel close, safe and connected?

So many feel like the “spark” in their relationship is missing, which can cause some distress or panic because that then might feel like it equates to failure or the demise of the relationship. This isn’t necessarily true and continuing to remind yourself that your relationship is not done because the “spark” is gone is a good first step to keeping the relationship healthy.

How to Recover the Spark in a Relationship

I interviewed various couples to see how they keep that spark alive. One man, who has been married to his wife for over 40 years, lists important facets of his relationship like keeping his partner laughing, engaging in physical touch, checking in on how she’s doing emotionally and physically, and ensuring that they stay connected to loved ones in their family. He laughs, stating, “sparks are hard to come by when you’re 70-something.” All jokes aside, he emphasizes that communicating with your partner for continuous check-ins and treating your partner like they “can always get swept off their feet and offered more by someone else” is helpful in keeping them feeling cared for and loved.

Other interviewees suggested continuing to date your partner. A good rule of thumb is the 2-2-2 rule. Every 2 weeks, you go on a date night. Every 2 months, you go on a weekend getaway. Every 2 years, you take a big vacation together. This can be adjusted accordingly—3-3-3, or however works for you best, but the main point being to take the time to focus just on one another without any other responsibilities and do something enjoyable.

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Advice For a Happier Relationship

No matter how long you and your honey have been together, it sounds like surefire ways you can keep those butterflies fluttering is by prioritizing time with them, finding ways to be playful, and avoiding just assuming that everything is always fine and dandy by giving them the opportunity to express themselves.

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The Gift of Boundaries

 

The Gift of Boundaries
By Donnella Lincoln

It’s no secret that self-care is important, especially during the holidays. Usually what comes to mind when self-care is mentioned is taking a vacation, getting your nails done, or treating yourself to your favorite dessert at the end of a long day, but there are other forms of (much needed) self-care.

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Setting Boundaries During the Holiday Season

“No” can always be a complete sentence. Keeping your distance from strangers or those with ill-intentions towards you doesn’t need any explanation. ’Tis the Season, and you don’t need a reason, at least when it comes to setting boundaries, with anyone—even family, friends and loved ones; however, communicating those boundaries instead of ignoring or avoiding that person, situation or conversation can be incredibly nourishing to the relationships that are important to you.

Keeping A Healthy Relationship During the Holidays

If you’re going to have healthy relationships and communication with others, then you need to be able to identify what it is that makes you feel safe, respected, and/or loved. What are your boundaries? During the holidays, there are so many things that can come up where being able to express those boundaries can help lift a huge weight off your shoulders.

Help For Setting Boundaries

If you’re wondering how to assert yourself and still make the nice list, here at AZRI, we can help with a boundary script. Including each of these components into your dialogue increases your chances of your boundary being understood and respected since you will be mindfully and respectfully providing as much information as possible. It’s important that you feel like you can be yourself, so the expectation is not that you will be reading from the script word-for-word, but just that you find a way to incorporate each of these elements in a way that feels most natural for you.

      1. “When I saw you (heard you, felt you, discovered that you, noticed that you…)”

        Be specific, repeat what the person said/did literally as factually as possible

      2. “What I thought/made up about that is…”

        Make sure to use “I” instead of “you”, state your perception, interpretation, as it impacts you

      3. “And about that I feel…”

        Share your emotions (fear, joy, guilt, shame, loneliness, anger, etc.)

      4. “Therefore, I request…”

        State the boundary you will create and what it is you would like changed

      5. “If this happens again/comes up again”

        This is not a punishment or a way to manipulate or control someone else. It is something YOU will do in response to your boundary being violated. Be sure to set realistic expectations for yourself of what it is that you will do in response

      6. Thank them for listening, find ways to reinforce when/if they change, etc.

Whether you’re feeling exhausted about driving all over for the holidays, are trying to be better with your finances, do not feel welcomed with certain family members, have different spiritual beliefs than others, or everything in between, your feelings and needs matter.

You deserve to have healthy connections and feel respected in those, so setting and enforcing clear boundaries is a great way to accomplish that. Happy Holidays!

 

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